Do you want to spend life with a stranger?

India has a long tradition of arrange marriages and so it’s going on till today.

The social structure & culture in India is such that when people think about a wedding it’s always an arrange marriage in mind. Love marriage for Indians is still a boom like the time of Soni- mahiwal. Indians never supported love marriages whole heartedly.

For Indians it’s really tough to accept a love marriage when its inter caste marriage (leave apart the religion- that is a big issue for them). Although education & media has played a very vital role in changing, the minds of Indian about their tradition of arrange marriages. But still deep down in their mind there is always a hand against love marriages.

Today, almost 50 % of people still very strongly believe in arrange marriages. And the rest 30% out of 50% supports love marriages just for their children happiness.

So very few of 20% Indians support love marriages happily.

But I still have some questions in my mind?

How can you decide about spending your life with someone who is a stranger?

How can one judge a person in just 5- 10 minutes of time?

I personally feel that when you have decided to spend life together it is important for you to know the person. There should be mental compatibility and understanding among both of you.

How can one get married to a person just talking for 5 minutes?

In case of arranged marriages the relation starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a meeting before the final commitment. Before deciding anything the parents do up with their number of meetings and important family checks.

All those formal meetings and hell lot of show-ups; what does all this matter when things are certainly different in future.

I personally believe, if you know somebody before marriage it allows partners to have better respect and understanding for each other's needs and desires.

People feel one is more secured in arrange marriages, as parents decide everything and confirms everything before the marriage. How can one be so sure that things seen & checked are true? Many of times things changes after marriage.

What is the guarantee of a arrange marriage to be more successful than love marriage?

It hurts and it hurts terribly when expectations are belied, when emotions get trampled and you feel cheated and ignored.

Then I should certainly say it’s all self affirmation that makes us think this way.

Why can’t we Indian make arrange marriage as easy to understand as a love marriage? Why cant two people spend some time together to understand each other well before their marriage decision?
How can a person think of spending life with a stranger?

It’s hard to understand this concept. People have a belief get married love will come following it. That’s a forceful love. One has to adjust even if both of your opinion doesn’t match with each other.

In my opinion in arrange marriages, if we can’t give time to understand each other than hats off to those people who go for love marriages. At least they will never have a grudge in their life, that they married a stranger. They married a person who they understand and know well.

They took time to come to a decision called marriage.

Marriage is not a joke it’s a life time commitment. It’s a matter of two person’s life, which can be beautified or made hell just with a wrong decision.

This is my take what about you...Are you ready to marry to a stranger?